Ok, so I’ve been sitting on the sidelines all, “Well if that chick with octuplets wants to have babies to make some money maybe that’s her talent.”

But for some reason, now that she HAS a website openly asking for donations, well, I plan on making an anonymous (ok, not so anonymous since I’m posting about it publicly) call to the IRS asking how this not a not-for-profit can get donations and ask about the tax ramifications, because man, I was okay with Oprah potentially paying her $2M but get the hell off my interwebz with your beggin’ strips ass.

Seriously. People are going to give her ass money that should be donating to the Red Cross or the March of Dimes or the autistic kid’s family that lives down the street that Mrs. Jones (or whoever) didn’t say hi to at the store the other day.

That she is going to be the excuse that lets people give her $5 via paypal to sleep better at night for not helping the local fundraiser they skipped out on or did not participate in. That just bugs me.

Where do you think it ends? Do you think she’s going to now spend the rest of her life trying to get money for free?

Even more important: Do you think she reads the messages people send? Or do you think she has someone that screens out the bitter, awful people like me who threaten to turn her in to the IRS?

Jen is an awful person and secretly wishes she could set up a website and sit on her ass and collect money all day. She actually works, albeit from home, so no one thinks she really does anything but blog all day.

I wasn’t going to blog here at BMB tonight. I have other more important crap to attend to. Like sleeping. Or keeping up with my other blogs.
But as I was sitting here doing some last minute web surfing, I came across a Yahoo news story about the California mom who just gave birth to octuplets.
(I can’t figure out how to link on here yet because I’m just that kind of special, but if you just take a second on Yahoo search, you’ll find more than enough to keep you busy reading with all the criticism that has been published since the babies were born.)
And in case you live under a rock, the criticism for the fertility doctors who helped a mother of six get pregnant and the wave of absolute cattiness that has been aimed at the mother for being selfish that came on has ever-so quickly completely overshadowed the simple and beautiful fact that all eight babies survived.
I’m not a medical expert. I may have had had problems getting pregnant, but I won’t pretend to know what it is like to be forced to rely on a method such an invitro-fertilization to become a mother.
And yet like many, I have wondered how the hell any doctor approved implanting eight embryos into one uterus at one time. Was it responsible? Was it ethical? Should it even have been done to begin with?
Probably not. But can we at least wait to point fingers until the rest of the story is made public?
I don’t know all the details, and neither do you.
And what about the mother? 33-year-old Nadya Suleman? What about the fact that she is single? Has suffered from depression? Collected more than 165,000 in disability payments between 2002 an 2008 from an injury she sustained while working in a mental hospital? Or the fact that she gave birth to most of her six other children during that six year period?
What about all of that and any other dirt the media digs up on this poor woman?
Bottom line? I think it’s all crap. We can’t judge what we don’t know and we don’t know Nadya Suleman.
So what if she is single? Jon and Kate and their 8 kids seem to be living it up on their TV show with millions of devoted viewers, and Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and their 18 kids? Yeah…I don’t see anyone digging through their financials, either.
A few eyes may have rolled in disbelief when the stories first came to light (Who is crazy enough to want that many kids, right?) but no one got dragged through the mud.
Do I think some of the media backlash has to do with the fact that Suleman is single? (You bet your ass I do.) Do I think that she is being singled out as a poor example of “The Ethics of Motherhood” because she chose to undergo fertility treatments, usually viewed as a last resort for childless couples who cannot get pregnant by any other means, after birthing six other children conceived the same way? (Hell yes.) Do I think she is a lazy slob who should be judged for having her kids while collecting what breaks down to about $27,500 a year because she got hurt at work? (No. Because $27,500 a year sounds a lot less impressive than $165,000 in six years, doesn’t it?)
And what about concerns raised that she has more kids than she can care for now? (To that I say, “Back off already! She’s living with her parents in a HOUSE-not a cardboard box! Who better to help out than Grandma and Grampa?”)
I just don’t get it. Had this been her first pregnancy and it happened spontaneously AND had she been married, I don’t think this would have turned into more than another reality show on TLC.
(Having said all that, I reserve the right to jump sides and start pointing fingers if something ludicrous ever comes out, like Suleman admitting she did it just for the book deal or TV deal she will inevitably get.)
But for now? I’m not judging her. But the guy photographed with the “No More Babies” sign in front of her parent’s home like it’s some star-studded “Save the Whales” campaign event?
Yeah, him I’m judging plenty.